If this does not help, gradually distance yourself until boundaries are "reset.". Become emotional "prey": In some relationships with individuals with BPD, you can easily feel like you are. Answer (1 of 5): This is a very interesting question as it won't be easily understood by a pwBPD - because they don't have the frame of reference for what it means to be without BPD. Anyway, it's easy to underestimate how damaging it is to be enmeshed with anyone, regardless of their personality.